Dick-Niederhauser states, the word happiness refers to two distinct states of mind. The first one which can be regarded as the affective-experiential component of happiness or happiness as an emotional state, is often called joy. This is an intense but usually short-lived feeling of bliss and overflowing gladness. The second component of happiness, which can be regarded as the cognitive-evaluate component of happiness or well-being or happiness as a personality trait, often called life satisfaction or subjective well being.
I believe that Dick-Niederhauser neglected the idea that Joy can be a choice. I choose to be joyful, content no matter what my circumstance, Like the apostle Paul who learned to be content no matter what the circumstance. Being content in every circumstance lets you choose to be happy and joyful. Grumbling, whining, pouting or throwing a temper-tantrum these things will steal your joy; and as long as you carry the bitterness, you can’t have joy. These two things cannot co-exist.
It may sound hard or seem impossible to choose joy when you are in the midst of, loss, or pain, or disappointment. I’d like to share my journey to choosing joy with you.
Dick Niederhauser,A. (2009). Therapeutic change and the experience of joy: Toward a theory of curative processes Journal of Psychotherapy Integration. 19(2), 187-201. doi:10.1037/a0016020.